Why are we wasting our money putting people in jail who don't need to be there. Drug users, prostitutes, perjurers,
So what costs less... educating a kid or incarcerating them? Why is it that most people in jail don't have a high school education?
The only people who need to be in jail are people who are threat to others.
This country needs more community service.
Drug users need medical attention not incarceration.
25 March 2008
The Rapist Checklist
over at BitingBeaver a blogger posted the Rapist Checklist.
Apparently, people don't like to be called a rapist. She had to restrict her blog because of threatening comments.
I'd like to call it the "Some Shit You Should Never Do" list.
I think this list is about self respect. What self respecting human being would do things like this? I know it happens a lot. Some of the things have happened to me. I had to reflect and admit that the situation was fucked up and if I had any respect for myself, I wouldn't let it happen.
I only want to be with people who want to be with me. I'd feel like shit if I had to beg, coerce, or trick anyone into having sex with me.
Now this list is supposedly speaking to a male audience. The only people who appreciate it are women who've had to deal with this.
I think this list is universal and genderless. Anyone can perpetrate these acts. Anyone can be a victim.
I think everyone should use this list for self reflection. I'm not saying you should turn yourself into the police. That'd be a bit ludicrous.
But just to say, "man I remember that... That was pretty fucked up".
1. You are a rapist if you get a girl drunk and have sex with her.
2. You are a rapist if you find a drunk girl and have sex with her.
3. You are a rapist if you get yourself drunk too and have sex with her. Your drunkenness is no excuse.
4. If you are BOTH drunk you may still be a rapist.
5. If she’s alternating between puking her guts out and passing out in the bed then you’re a rapist.
6. If she’s sleeping and you have sex with her you’re a rapist.
7. If she’s unconscious and you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
8. If she’s taking sleeping pills and doesn’t wake up when you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
9. If she is incapacitated in any way and unable to say ‘Yes’ then you’re a rapist.
10. If you drug her then you’re a rapist.
11. If you find a drugged girl and have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
12. If you don’t bother to ask her permission and she says neither ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ then you could be a rapist.
13. You are a rapist if you ‘nag’ her for sex. Because you manage to ply an eventual ‘yes’ from a weary victim doesn’t mean it’s not rape. You are a rapist.
14. You are a rapist if you try to circumvent her “No” by talking her into it. She’s not playing hard to get, and, even if she IS it’s not YOUR responsibility to ‘get’ her. You’re still a rapist.
15. You are a rapist if you manipulate her into sex when she doesn’t otherwise want it. If you say, “If you loved me you’d do X” then you’re a rapist. If you say, “All the other kids are doing it!” then you’re a rapist.
16. If you threaten her, or act in a way that SHE thinks you’re threatening her then you’re a rapist. If you puff up and get loud and frustrated while trying to ‘talk’ her into sex then you’re a rapist.
17. You are a rapist if you don’t immediately get your hands off of her when she says ‘no’. You are a rapist if you take your hands off of her and then put them back ON her after 10 minutes and she eventually ‘gives in’ to this tactic.
18. You are a rapist if you won’t let her sleep peacefully without waking her every 15 minutes asking her for sex. Sleep depravation is a form of torture and YOU are a rapist.
19. If you’re necking with her and you’re naked and you’ve already gone down on her and she says ‘No’ to sex with you and you have sex with her anyway then you’re a rapist.
20. If you’re engaged in intercourse and she says ‘No’ at ANY point and you don’t immediately stop then you’re a rapist.
21. If she said “Yes” to sex with a condom and that condom breaks and you proceed anyway then you’re a rapist.
22. If she picked you up at a bar looking for sex and then decides that she doesn’t WANT sex and you continue then you’re a rapist.
23. If she changes her mind at ANY point for ANY reason and you don’t immediately back off or you try to talk her into it and get sex anyway then you’re a rapist.
24. If you don’t hit her and she says ‘No’ you’re still a rapist.
25. If you don’t have a knife or a gun or a garrote and she says ‘No’ then you’re still a rapist.
26. If you’re a friend of hers you can still be a rapist.
27. If you had sex with her the night before but she doesn’t want morning sex and you pressure her for it anyway then you’re a rapist.
28. If you’re her husband you can still be a rapist.
29. If it’s your wedding night and she doesn’t WANT to have sex with you and you force or coerce her anyway then you’re a rapist.
30. If she’s had sex with you hundreds of times before but doesn’t want to on the 101st time then you’re a rapist.
31. If you penetrate her anally, orally or digitally against her will then YOU my friend, are ALSO a rapist.
32. Women do not owe you sex.
33. Buying her dinner does not entitle you to sex.
34. Paying her mortgage does not entitle you to sex.
35. Buying her clothing does not entitle you to sex.
36. Buying her lingerie does not entitle you to sex. It also doesn’t mean that she has any obligation to wear that lingerie around you.
37. Spending any amount of money on her does not, ever, entitle you to sex.
38. Seeing her legs or cleavage does not entitle you to sex.
39. If she ‘turns you on’ you’re not entitled to sex.
40. If she has fucked every man in a 10 square mile radius and she doesn’t want to fuck you and you have sex with her anyway, then you’re a rapist.
41. Her clothing is not a reason for you to rape her. Her LACK of clothing is no reason to rape her. If she’s wearing a thong and pasties you STILL have no right to rape her.
42. If she’s a prostitute and she says “No” then you’re a rapist.
43. If she’s a stripper and she says “No” then you’re a rapist. Likewise, if she’s a stripper and she’s been rubbing against your &!#@ all night long and you follow her to her car and have sex with her against her will then you are ALSO a rapist.
44. If you watch a woman being raped without calling the authorities then you’re as bad as a rapist and you may also be a rapist yourself.
45. If you don’t fight rape then you accept rape.
46. If you don’t believe a woman when she says she was raped then you’re encouraging rape.
47. If you choose to remain friends with a man who raped a woman you are encouraging rape.
48. If you confess to the authorities that you raped a woman it does not exonerate you. You are not suddenly a model of good behavior.
49. If you ‘only’ raped one woman, you’re STILL a rapist.
50. You cannot tell who is a rapist by the way they look. Rapists are your friends, your brothers, your fathers and you won’t know it.
51. Do not get frustrated with a woman if she doesn’t trust you. SHE already knows that rapists don’t wear signs on their foreheads. Something you think is innocuous SHE may find terrifying.
Apparently, people don't like to be called a rapist. She had to restrict her blog because of threatening comments.
I'd like to call it the "Some Shit You Should Never Do" list.
I think this list is about self respect. What self respecting human being would do things like this? I know it happens a lot. Some of the things have happened to me. I had to reflect and admit that the situation was fucked up and if I had any respect for myself, I wouldn't let it happen.
I only want to be with people who want to be with me. I'd feel like shit if I had to beg, coerce, or trick anyone into having sex with me.
Now this list is supposedly speaking to a male audience. The only people who appreciate it are women who've had to deal with this.
I think this list is universal and genderless. Anyone can perpetrate these acts. Anyone can be a victim.
I think everyone should use this list for self reflection. I'm not saying you should turn yourself into the police. That'd be a bit ludicrous.
But just to say, "man I remember that... That was pretty fucked up".
1. You are a rapist if you get a girl drunk and have sex with her.
2. You are a rapist if you find a drunk girl and have sex with her.
3. You are a rapist if you get yourself drunk too and have sex with her. Your drunkenness is no excuse.
4. If you are BOTH drunk you may still be a rapist.
5. If she’s alternating between puking her guts out and passing out in the bed then you’re a rapist.
6. If she’s sleeping and you have sex with her you’re a rapist.
7. If she’s unconscious and you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
8. If she’s taking sleeping pills and doesn’t wake up when you have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
9. If she is incapacitated in any way and unable to say ‘Yes’ then you’re a rapist.
10. If you drug her then you’re a rapist.
11. If you find a drugged girl and have sex with her then you’re a rapist.
12. If you don’t bother to ask her permission and she says neither ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ then you could be a rapist.
13. You are a rapist if you ‘nag’ her for sex. Because you manage to ply an eventual ‘yes’ from a weary victim doesn’t mean it’s not rape. You are a rapist.
14. You are a rapist if you try to circumvent her “No” by talking her into it. She’s not playing hard to get, and, even if she IS it’s not YOUR responsibility to ‘get’ her. You’re still a rapist.
15. You are a rapist if you manipulate her into sex when she doesn’t otherwise want it. If you say, “If you loved me you’d do X” then you’re a rapist. If you say, “All the other kids are doing it!” then you’re a rapist.
16. If you threaten her, or act in a way that SHE thinks you’re threatening her then you’re a rapist. If you puff up and get loud and frustrated while trying to ‘talk’ her into sex then you’re a rapist.
17. You are a rapist if you don’t immediately get your hands off of her when she says ‘no’. You are a rapist if you take your hands off of her and then put them back ON her after 10 minutes and she eventually ‘gives in’ to this tactic.
18. You are a rapist if you won’t let her sleep peacefully without waking her every 15 minutes asking her for sex. Sleep depravation is a form of torture and YOU are a rapist.
19. If you’re necking with her and you’re naked and you’ve already gone down on her and she says ‘No’ to sex with you and you have sex with her anyway then you’re a rapist.
20. If you’re engaged in intercourse and she says ‘No’ at ANY point and you don’t immediately stop then you’re a rapist.
21. If she said “Yes” to sex with a condom and that condom breaks and you proceed anyway then you’re a rapist.
22. If she picked you up at a bar looking for sex and then decides that she doesn’t WANT sex and you continue then you’re a rapist.
23. If she changes her mind at ANY point for ANY reason and you don’t immediately back off or you try to talk her into it and get sex anyway then you’re a rapist.
24. If you don’t hit her and she says ‘No’ you’re still a rapist.
25. If you don’t have a knife or a gun or a garrote and she says ‘No’ then you’re still a rapist.
26. If you’re a friend of hers you can still be a rapist.
27. If you had sex with her the night before but she doesn’t want morning sex and you pressure her for it anyway then you’re a rapist.
28. If you’re her husband you can still be a rapist.
29. If it’s your wedding night and she doesn’t WANT to have sex with you and you force or coerce her anyway then you’re a rapist.
30. If she’s had sex with you hundreds of times before but doesn’t want to on the 101st time then you’re a rapist.
31. If you penetrate her anally, orally or digitally against her will then YOU my friend, are ALSO a rapist.
32. Women do not owe you sex.
33. Buying her dinner does not entitle you to sex.
34. Paying her mortgage does not entitle you to sex.
35. Buying her clothing does not entitle you to sex.
36. Buying her lingerie does not entitle you to sex. It also doesn’t mean that she has any obligation to wear that lingerie around you.
37. Spending any amount of money on her does not, ever, entitle you to sex.
38. Seeing her legs or cleavage does not entitle you to sex.
39. If she ‘turns you on’ you’re not entitled to sex.
40. If she has fucked every man in a 10 square mile radius and she doesn’t want to fuck you and you have sex with her anyway, then you’re a rapist.
41. Her clothing is not a reason for you to rape her. Her LACK of clothing is no reason to rape her. If she’s wearing a thong and pasties you STILL have no right to rape her.
42. If she’s a prostitute and she says “No” then you’re a rapist.
43. If she’s a stripper and she says “No” then you’re a rapist. Likewise, if she’s a stripper and she’s been rubbing against your &!#@ all night long and you follow her to her car and have sex with her against her will then you are ALSO a rapist.
44. If you watch a woman being raped without calling the authorities then you’re as bad as a rapist and you may also be a rapist yourself.
45. If you don’t fight rape then you accept rape.
46. If you don’t believe a woman when she says she was raped then you’re encouraging rape.
47. If you choose to remain friends with a man who raped a woman you are encouraging rape.
48. If you confess to the authorities that you raped a woman it does not exonerate you. You are not suddenly a model of good behavior.
49. If you ‘only’ raped one woman, you’re STILL a rapist.
50. You cannot tell who is a rapist by the way they look. Rapists are your friends, your brothers, your fathers and you won’t know it.
51. Do not get frustrated with a woman if she doesn’t trust you. SHE already knows that rapists don’t wear signs on their foreheads. Something you think is innocuous SHE may find terrifying.
Solution for Iraq?
It's all about autonomy. We should ask the Iraqi government if they want our presence. They could even put it up for a vote. They are supposed to be a democracy. If their vote was good enough to elect officials, it should be good enough to vote on other matters. Unless we are willing to admit that things have gotten worse and voting would not be a working option.
Really, I don't think anyone has been honest about the reasons we went into Iraq.
To protect our security. Their violation of sanctions. Their WMDs. Al Qaeda. Their oil. Revenge. Establishing a stronghold in the Middle East.
Whatever the reason, we went in and basically destroyed their country. Disposed of their government. Immediate withdrawal would be irresponsible. "Leave it like you found it". I wish: but, that's not possible. I think we're leaning towards "If you break it you bought it".
But is this something that can be fixed from afar? Do we really need troops dying to ensure our victory? Don't we have weapons systems that can pin point enemy targets and destroy them? Don't see why we have to make ourselves more vulnerable by sending all of our troops to a country whose fate is really out of our hands.
It's up to the Iraqi people to handle this situation by themselves.
UPDATE
Iraq insists on U.S. withdrawal timetable
Really, I don't think anyone has been honest about the reasons we went into Iraq.
To protect our security. Their violation of sanctions. Their WMDs. Al Qaeda. Their oil. Revenge. Establishing a stronghold in the Middle East.
Whatever the reason, we went in and basically destroyed their country. Disposed of their government. Immediate withdrawal would be irresponsible. "Leave it like you found it". I wish: but, that's not possible. I think we're leaning towards "If you break it you bought it".
But is this something that can be fixed from afar? Do we really need troops dying to ensure our victory? Don't we have weapons systems that can pin point enemy targets and destroy them? Don't see why we have to make ourselves more vulnerable by sending all of our troops to a country whose fate is really out of our hands.
It's up to the Iraqi people to handle this situation by themselves.
UPDATE
Iraq insists on U.S. withdrawal timetable
24 March 2008
Remember When Music was Art?
I like my music visceral.
I don't care for technical perfection.
I want someone to show me their heart through their song.
I don't care for technical perfection.
I want someone to show me their heart through their song.
Common Courtesy
I don't know if it's a regional thing or an age thing; but, it seems that common courtesy is fading fast in this country.
When I lived in Virginia, people would say hi when walking by each other on the street. I've gotten into the habit of saying, "How ya doing?" I guess this is a bit much. I really don't expect an answer; but, if they did, I would listen.
I've also started to say excuse me when I get into someone's personal space, I define that as being within arms reach.
Now living on the west coast, I've noticed that people tend to avoid eye contact when passing each other. But, I've noticed that older people will greet. Maybe it's a generational thing.
I also like to open doors for people. I heard that this is insulting to some people???? Wow. Well, how about not letting the door slam in the face of the person behind you? Is that respectful enough?
I think I'm the only one who will leave the room to answer my cell phone. Actually, I should silence it when I'm eating, in a meeting, or just conversing with an acquaintance.
We don't need to go over "please", "thank you", and "May I"
When I lived in Virginia, people would say hi when walking by each other on the street. I've gotten into the habit of saying, "How ya doing?" I guess this is a bit much. I really don't expect an answer; but, if they did, I would listen.
I've also started to say excuse me when I get into someone's personal space, I define that as being within arms reach.
Now living on the west coast, I've noticed that people tend to avoid eye contact when passing each other. But, I've noticed that older people will greet. Maybe it's a generational thing.
I also like to open doors for people. I heard that this is insulting to some people???? Wow. Well, how about not letting the door slam in the face of the person behind you? Is that respectful enough?
I think I'm the only one who will leave the room to answer my cell phone. Actually, I should silence it when I'm eating, in a meeting, or just conversing with an acquaintance.
We don't need to go over "please", "thank you", and "May I"
The Oppressed Oppressor
For some reason, people find it incredulous that someone who has been/is being oppressed would oppress others. Apparently people believe that being a victim of oppression builds some sense of compassion.
I'm going to have to go against this logic; based on observation and reasoning.
First, I've rarely seen someone who is empathetic to a cause that they have not directly/indirectly experienced. Lesbians advocate for lesbians, Blacks advocate for blacks, Cancer survivors advocate for cancer, etc...
The oppressed seem to be self-righteous in their oppression. There's an attitude of "your suffering is insignificant and doesn't compare to what I've been through. I've Had to fight my own battles, don't expect any sympathy."
It seems that the oppressed become so wrapped up in their oppression and the effort to fight it that they fail to recognize the suffering of others. More importantly, they fail to see how they make others suffer.
I'm going to have to go against this logic; based on observation and reasoning.
First, I've rarely seen someone who is empathetic to a cause that they have not directly/indirectly experienced. Lesbians advocate for lesbians, Blacks advocate for blacks, Cancer survivors advocate for cancer, etc...
The oppressed seem to be self-righteous in their oppression. There's an attitude of "your suffering is insignificant and doesn't compare to what I've been through. I've Had to fight my own battles, don't expect any sympathy."
It seems that the oppressed become so wrapped up in their oppression and the effort to fight it that they fail to recognize the suffering of others. More importantly, they fail to see how they make others suffer.
03 March 2008
We Are One
John 17
"I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word. Now they know that everything you have given me comes from you. For I gave them the words you gave me and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from you, and they believed that you sent me. I pray for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours. All I have is yours, and all you have is mine. And glory has come to me through them. I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name—the name you gave me—so that they may be one as we are one. While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name you gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled. "I am coming to you now, but I say these things while I am still in the world, so that they may have the full measure of my joy within them. I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world. For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified.
"My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me. "Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world. "Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me. I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them."
"I have revealed you to those whom you gave me out of the world. They were yours; you gave them to me and they have obeyed your word. Now they know that everything you have given me comes from you. For I gave them the words you gave me and they accepted them. They knew with certainty that I came from you, and they believed that you sent me. I pray for them. I am not praying for the world, but for those you have given me, for they are yours. All I have is yours, and all you have is mine. And glory has come to me through them. I will remain in the world no longer, but they are still in the world, and I am coming to you. Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name—the name you gave me—so that they may be one as we are one. While I was with them, I protected them and kept them safe by that name you gave me. None has been lost except the one doomed to destruction so that Scripture would be fulfilled. "I am coming to you now, but I say these things while I am still in the world, so that they may have the full measure of my joy within them. I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world. For them I sanctify myself, that they too may be truly sanctified.
"My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me. "Father, I want those you have given me to be with me where I am, and to see my glory, the glory you have given me because you loved me before the creation of the world. "Righteous Father, though the world does not know you, I know you, and they know that you have sent me. I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them."
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