Is love enough?

Love is sufficient unto itself
Love doesn't need to be in a relationship
Whatever one's definition: exclusivity, loyalty, commitment, to act on one's desires, to possess,

Love doesn't need love in return. It is a boundless fountain. The more you give, the more you are given.

Being in love doesn't mean you have to be in a relationship.
love doesn't even need to be friends

Love is enough, love is more than enough.

Love can manifest itself in many different ways. We assume it always has to lead to a relationship and sometimes that's not the best path for love.

We are the ones that put limits on love.

Maybe the question is in error. Because love is.

It's what you do with that love and how you manifest that love.
Love has no conditions. Wants nothing. It's beyond ethics. Does it really care what your heart desires?
Love doesn't care if you're friends or married. If you see each other everyday or have never met in person.

You have to acknowledge it and ask what you want to do with it.
Will that manifestation be accepted? Is it appropriate? Is it mutual. Does it have to be?
All different types of ways to interact with a person and love doesn't care.
How do you want your love to manifest? And love doesn't care.
It's important to be aware of what you want in return because, again, love wants nothing.
know the difference between speaking on love's behalf and speaking for yourself.
I have needs, certain wants, goals, plans. Then to realize that I am fickle and those wants will change.
In the end, maybe, we'll learn to ask what love wants from us.

healing

Just discovered that walls built up to protect actually hinder the healing that needs to take place.
Realize that you're wounded and you need healing more than protection.
If you're already wounded then you need healing, it's too late for protection.
A wall is like a pain killer but the pain always comes back. The only way to stop the pain for good is to heal the wound
To heal a wound you often need to expose it. Let it air out.
This love has exposed something within me
Something I need to stop ignoring
I'm learning so much and it is a bit painful
I realize that i don't even know what the tears are really for
Is my heart aching for more
Is my heart rejoicing in the love that I've found
Is it a release of all the toxins in my heart
Is it confusion or frustration
So much can be going on
Maybe all at once
But to realize that maybe it's all coming from the inside out
I need to let go
Realize that my need to control myself is misguided

Asking myself if I really love myself
Putting all this theory into action
Seeing what I'm really made of
That I speak of non-attachment but
What logic really controls my heart

To know that I'm Worthy of love is different than actually believing it.

Love expectations

A good question is how can you love without expecting something from the one you love?
I can boast about having no expectations but am I being honest with myself?
I can be real and say that I'm going to get what god is going to give me. As long as I'm open to it.
It might not be what I want and it's probably a lot healthier than what I want.
Even though I don't really know what I want.
I want it to never end. I want to know that you'll always be there when I need you.
So I said that I have no expectations and what I really mean is that I have no realistic expectations or that my expectations are unfair.
But what am I left with?
In the back of my mind there this voice asking. And I have to keep telling it no.


I'm not as enlightened as I'd like to think
Affection, attachment, devotion,
Not the same as love.
Distinguishing love from craving is hard. Loving without wanting in return is difficult.
Loving without expectations.
Can you honestly say you are in a relationship without having expectations?
I don't feel I have the right to any expectations. To ask for anything. Moreso I'm afraid to.

Deep thought

"The wave must realize that its reality, as a mere wave, is temporary. It may appear again and again as other waves, but in the end it has to realize that its reality lies not in its separateness as a wave, but in the ocean of which the wave is a manifestation. Realization of its true identity demands merging into the ocean and becoming one with it."
-Paramhansa Yogananda

Deep Thought

No tendency is quite so strong in human nature as the desire to lay down rules of conduct for other people.
William Howard Taft

don't care what love wants

I want to love you
I want to be with you
I want to support you
I want to experience the world with you
I want to make you happy
I want to share in your happiness
I want to grieve with you
I Want to cheer you up
I want to learn from you

I don't want to cry for no reason
I don't want to feel insecure
I don't want to always wonder when it will end
I don't want to wonder if you really want me
I don't want to feel like a fool
I don't want to feel fear when I think of you
I don't want to feel like my love is in vain
I don't want to need assurance that you still want to be with me

I realize I'm in over my head
I don't want to control you or this relationship
I just want to feel like I have some control over myself
I want to be happy and feel supported
I want to be loved

Deep Thought

Love is never enough
because Love is everything

Deep Thought

“Sir, my concern is not whether God is on our side; my greatest concern is to be on God's side, for God is always right”

Abraham Lincoln

Deep Thought

You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him
-James D. Miles

Deep thought

Economic power and control is maintained by artificial scarcity and artificial needs

Ya Take the Good, Ya Take the Bad

When it's good. Acknowledge it. Enjoy it. Cherish it.
When it's bad. Acknowledge it. Learn from it. Make it better.
Though sometimes better doesn't look the way you want it to look.
Sometimes your version of better makes it more difficult.
Sometimes better hurts for the moment.
Then it gets better.

Was Buddha in love?

So I've tried love the Buddha way. It kinda works with family and friends and strangers on the street. Doesn't work when you're in love. The whole non-attachment thing is a complete contradiction.
He was right. Life is suffering. Full of suffering that we bring on ourselves because of our attachments. We can end the suffering by getting rid of our attachments. Then there's the eightfold path to ending that suffering.
I've noticed the eightfold path says nothing about being in love.
Maybe I haven't looked hard enough. But I'd assume it asks you to never fall in love. Because that's the only feasible way to stay clear of attachment.
It all sounds so logical (even though it's not); but what about love?
What about that other person who is that craving and attachment. What about the wave that crashes over you that you can't stop. You can't run from. You can't be dispassionate. No matter how hard you try.
So, I don't think Buddha was ever in love.

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Resist

Stupid iPhone 4. I leave in a month or so. Why does it have to come out now? It's probably going to be sold out by the time I can grab one.
My upgrade is in November. I get back in February.
To get it now, I have to pay an extra 200 bucks no matter how I shake it. Then I can't use it when I leave.
This sucks

Not so Deep Thought

A closed mouth don't get fed

cognitive-behavioral therapy, or CBT

look at five factors and see how they interact and affect each other. changing one will change the others.

Environment
Mood
Physical Reaction
Behaviors
Thoughts (Most important)

Deep Thought

Marianne Williamson

If you're looking at the world and not grieving, then you're not conscious. But if you're looking at the world and not rejoicing in the miraculous possibilities for healing it, then you're spiritually immature.

Deep Thought

Marianne Williamson

Whenever you have a problem, pray: "Dear God, I am willing to see this situation differently. Amen."

Deep Thought

Marianne Williamson

Watch where you put your faith. Do you have more faith In the power of your disasters, or in the power of God to transform them?

June 14 at 8:40am

Deep Thought

Maya Angelou

I deal very little in facts, facts can obscure the truth, you can tell so many facts you never get to the truth, you can tell the places where, the people who, the times when, the reasons why, and never get to the human truth which is love and pain and loss and triumph.

Deep Thought

Albert Einstein once said "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"

Deep Thought

A smart person learns from their mistakes

A wise person learns from the mistakes of others.

perils of capitalism

Slavery
Resource destruction
Monopoly

Buying govt.

Protection from capitalism

Capitalism needs a mechanism that protects workers and consumers. Something besides the government.

The consumer needs things like:
Consumer groups
Media keeping public informed of business practices
public record
Freedom of information

Workers need things like:
Democratic unions. Unions that do not try to shut out free agents.
Democratic Corporations
Coops
Workers own at least 50% of company

A season or a lifetime

I saw a play. Someone was giving advice. Said if a person wants to leave, Let them go.
Said some people in your life are like leaves. They are only meant to be in your life for a season. But people get confused when they put lifetime expectations on people who were only supposed to teach you one thing.
Some people are branches that make you think they're strong and the minute you step out to rely on them they might break.
So find some roots. two or three. People who will always be there for you.

If you have an issue in your relationship and that person tries to fix it then keep them in your life. If they don't care, let them go.

I hope my love is a root. I'm not naive enough to hope this for everyone I meet.
I think people are naive enough to hope this for people they fall in love with (myself included).

I guess love creates those branches. Made of the same stuff as the roots. Just not growing in the same place. Not as secure. Not for the same purpose.
Accept the idea that even some good people are only there for a season. Because they are not for you. They weren't meant for you in the long term. You met them to prepare yourself for the ones you will meet in the future.

Madea

Deep Thought

Sometimes bad people happen to good people

Deep Horoscope

A lot of people never got the mothering they needed in order to grow up into the confident, secure lovers of life they have the potential to become. But even greater numbers suffer from a lack of smart fathering. And that happens to be the deprivation that's most important for you Geminis to address right now. If there was anything missing in the guidance and mentoring you got from your actual daddy, I urge you to brainstorm about how you could make up for it in the coming months. For starters, here's one idea: Is there any father figure out there who could inspire you to become more of your own father figure?

17 June 2010

Deep Horoscope

If you have long conversations with the image in the mirror this week, I won't call you a megalomaniacal narcissist. Nor will I make fun of you if you paint 15 self-portraits, or google yourself obsessively, or fill an entire notebook with answers to the question "Who am I, anyway?" In my astrological opinion, this is an excellent time for you to pursue nosy explorations into the mysteries of your core identity. You have cosmic permission to think about yourself with an intensity you might normally devote to a charismatic idol you're infatuated with.


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10 June 2010

Geek shout out

Here's a shout out to two simple fixes to most every computer issue.
Shut it down, wait a minute, then restart it.
Uninstall screwed up program, restart computer, reinstall program.